With the weather turning cooler, it's time to pull out the winter coats. I have an old down parka for when it's below 20 degrees or so, and then my Bemidji Woolen Mills man-jacket that my brother and SIL gave me last year for the rest of the time. I love that coat. It's warm and retro and I like that I can add my own touches, like a hand-knit scarf. When I was in my late teens- early twenties, I had a thing for vintage and retro clothing. I (much to my mother's chagrin) wore a wool overcoat that belonged to a friend's grandfather as my winter coat, and collected some pins to make it a little snazzier. I found the pins the other day, and they are shown above.
All of them are pretty beat up, and were that way when I came across them. But they have a charm to them that I still really like. I'm going to pick one or two and put them on my man-jacket.
In other news, I've been on match.com and am (already) going to back away a little bit. My profile's been up for a couple of weeks, and I've been, well, kind of obsessive about seeing who has viewed it. This drains me, and I don't know why I fixate on it, so I'm leaving the profile up, but not going to check on the site for a few days. That sounds so trivial, but there you go.
I forget how many people (single men and otherwise) I meet during the course of a day. Yesterday, I took Sally out to the foothills trail that we've been hiking the last few weekends. There were probably a dozen people also out on the trail that day, many with dogs, and I said hello to all of them. It's good for me to remember this.
Also yesterday, I visited with a friend who just got a new puppy. She's had a bunch of stuff going on in her life right now, like having her old dog die suddenly, and the visit left me feeling like I've got NOTHING to complain about, thank you very much. But I did think about how, yes, I still want and need to find a partner for the next chapter of my life. I'm trying to live my life well in the meantime. Balance.
Good luck on the not checking... I hope you can do it - I couldn't! One day I was thinking along the same lines as you: I'm OK, life is good, seeking balance. Then I remembered a line from Eckert Tolle 'A New Earth' 'I AM not sad, sad is in me' - so I said to myself, 'I am not lonely, lonely is in me... come on in, sit down, let's chat - you can't be lonely if you are not alone'. Then I just laughed outloud, and in the process simply felt better.
ReplyDeleteLove you and wish I could spend TDay with you guys!
Suzanne, I am so tempted, but the urge to check does dwindle. I'll check Friday. I realize I'm not as happy when I check it often. Have you read the book I've blabbed on about, "Meeting Your Half Orange"? I got it from my library. It has helped me a bunch.
ReplyDeleteWe will call you on TDay, OK? Or maybe we can set up a video chat thing-a-ma-bob. Did you make plans? I got an invite last week from some friends that go out of their way to round up holiday orphans. It was nice to be asked.